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Ten Things Men Can Do To Help End Violence Against Women

Men are often our allies in the world-wide campaign to end violence against women.  Unfortunately, the perpetrators of violence against women are most often men.  According to Statcan (2010), men were the accused in 81% of cases of violent victimization of women and in 96% of cases involving sexual assault within the family.

 

 

We know that the vast majority of men in our community do not believe in violence.  Men can support our work by speaking out against violence and by mentoring children and youth as they are developing their attitudes towards women and towards violence.

Jackson Katz

Jackson Katz is an anti-sexist activist, educator, speaker, author, and film maker who is committed to ending gender violence. Watch his film's introduction below and read Jackson's list of ten things men can do to end violence.

Tough Guise, by Jackson Katz: introductory video montage.

Below is an excellent resource from Jackson Katz: http://www.jacksonkatz.com/index.html 

Ten things men can do to prevent gender violence

  1. Approach gender violence as a MEN'S issue involving men of all ages and socioeconomic, racial and ethnic backgrounds. View men not only as perpetrators or possible offenders, but as empowered bystanders who can confront abusive peers
  2. If a brother, friend, classmate, or teammate is abusing his female partner -- or is disrespectful or abusive to girls and women in general -- don't look the other way. If you feel comfortable doing so, try to talk to him about it. Urge him to seek help. Or if you don't know what to do, consult a friend, a parent, a professor, or a counselor. DON'T REMAIN SILENT.
  3. Have the courage to look inward. Question your own attitudes. Don't be defensive when something you do or say ends up hurting someone else. Try hard to understand how your own attitudes and actions might inadvertently perpetuate sexism and violence, and work toward changing them.
  4. If you suspect that a woman close to you is being abused or has been sexually assaulted, gently ask if you can help.
  5. If you are emotionally, psychologically, physically, or sexually abusive to women, or have been in the past, seek professional help NOW.
  6. Be an ally to women who are working to end all forms of gender violence. Support the work of campus-based women's centers. Attend "Take Back the Night" rallies and other public events. Raise money for community-based rape crisis centers and battered women's shelters. If you belong to a team or fraternity, or another student group, organize a fundraiser.
  7. Recognize and speak out against homophobia and gay-bashing. Discrimination and violence against lesbians and gays are wrong in and of themselves. This abuse also has direct links to sexism (eg. the sexual orientation of men who speak out against sexism is often questioned, a conscious or unconscious strategy intended to silence them. This is a key reason few men do so).
  8. Attend programs, take courses, watch films, and read articles and books about multicultural masculinities, gender inequality, and the root causes of gender violence.  Educate yourself and others about how larger social forces affect the conflicts between individual men and women.
  9. Don't fund sexism. Refuse to purchase any magazine, rent any video, subscribe to any Web site, or buy any music that portrays girls or women in a sexually degrading or abusive manner. Protest sexism in the media.
  10. Mentor and teach young boys about how to be men in ways that don't involve degrading or abusing girls and women. Volunteer to work with gender violence prevention programs, including anti-sexist men's programs. Lead by example

Copyright 1999, Jackson Katz. www.jacksonkatz.com
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